SELF esteem or OTHERS' esteem? That is the question
(and the problem with Social Media)
Validation from others is encouraging and gratifying. It is wonderful when other people recognize your talents, your strengths, and your qualities. But although that feels good, it is uplifting, ant it puts a smile on our face, it is not real SELF esteem.
As the word indicates self esteem is how you view yourself. No matter how many compliments and affirmation you get from others, it never amounts to how you really feel about yourself inside.
The danger of relying on other people’s approval for confidence is that when we get enough of it we feel great, but when we don’t or, even worse, when we lose it, we sink deeper than when we started.