SELF esteem or OTHERS' esteem?

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SELF esteem or OTHERS' esteem? That is the question

(and the problem with Social Media)

Validation from others is encouraging and gratifying. It is wonderful when other people recognize your talents, your strengths, and your qualities. But although that feels good, it is uplifting, ant it puts a smile on our face, it is not real SELF esteem.

As the word indicates self esteem is how you view yourself. No matter how many compliments and affirmation you get from others, it never amounts to how you really feel about yourself inside.

The danger of relying on other people’s approval for confidence is that when we get enough of it we feel great, but when we don’t or, even worse, when we lose it, we sink deeper than when we started.

Religion, The Universe, God, or Love?

Religion, The Universe, God, or Love?

I have learned that religion often has nothing to do with God.

But if God does exist and He is not made of material form, than He cannot be seen or touched in a physical way.

If God is indeed Love, just like the Love that we feel for the special people in our hearts, He will be felt in us by something other than our senses.

For example, our loved ones are just as real inside of us whether near or far, whether we can see/hold them or not. We can move to another country (like I did), and never stop loving our family. We might lose them, but they will always live in our hearts, simply because Love is the only thing that never dies.

This proves that Love is real. More real than anything else in the world. Love is eternal and immortal. Love is what we all want and long for, the only thing that has the power to make us happy. Without Love we die inside, no matter what and how much we do to survive, because we are made of Love, and need Love like we need food, water, and oxygen to feel alive.

Love is what some call - the universe - and some call God. It is the energy that makes things happen or not happen — and it is not just a belief, but our reality, the one true and only fact that no one can escape or deny.

In conclusion, religion is a belief, and so is atheism, but Love is so much more.

 

What I wished I had learned sooner in life

What I wished I had learned sooner in life

It’s never too late to learn. But here is what I wish I had learned sooner in life:

Two hurting people don’t make a healthy one.

Two imperfect people don’t make a perfect one.

Two unhappy people don’t make a happy one.

They can share happy moments, but

Two hurting people will only make each other hurt more.

Two imperfect people will only make each other less perfect.

Two unhappy people will make each other more unhappy,

  BUT IF

  • they find out and share the truth about themselves
  • take responsibility
  • accept and Love themselves and each other unconditionally

then they will heal, become their best happy selves and enjoy more happiness together.

The Love Match

Knowledge is power, but really understanding and being able to practice Love, meaning being able to apply it to real life, (when in the middle of an emotionally challenging situation), is the the greatest power of all.

Love is life energy, without Love in our hearts we are dead inside. 

Live TO LEARN to truly love and you will feel ALIVE. 

No matter who throws what at you, you will always have something greater to throw back at them.

When we initiate communication with Love by using the TRUTH inside of us (meaning being VULNERABLE, through discarding shame and fear of judgment), AND respond with unconditional Love, (by receiving without judging the truth that the other person feels), everyone wins.

There is no loser, only winners and peace at the end. 

I call this "The Love Match", because it might feel a bit like boxing, but instead of going down we only go up, taking it higher and higher with each round.

Instead of getting weaker we only get stronger individually and together

Let Love rule and win first in your heart, and then in your life, through courageous vulnerability and unconditional kindness.

#thelovematch

#fightforlovetowin

#lovewins


Recipe:

  • Learning to strike and punch with truthful love while taking hits with     grace is an art that takes practice and devotion.
  • Become as intentional as possible in your interaction starting with your loved ones, and then with everyone around. When in the middle of conflict, make a conscious effort to consider the other person's feelings in the given situation. Allow them to express their perspective without judging. Offer understanding and empathy.
  • Notice the difference.

#thepowerofvulnerability

#listeningislove 


Coming soon: "Is Vulnerability a dirty word?"


What truly matters...

Some are unhappy even though they have everything, some are happy even though they have nothing.

Our happiness is not in our satisfaction but in our ability to feel satisfied.

We can't appreciate what we don't value and when we value the wrong things we can never be happy.

When we value the right things we are happy because even if we have nothing, we have everything.

When we value the wrong things we will always be unhappy because there's never enough of the wrong thing, but we only need a little of the right thing cause the right thing is always enough.

Recipe:

Remember last time you received an amazing gift, or imagine getting something you've been working hard to get. Close your eyes, how did you feel? Were you happy because you "GOT" the thing or because you felt loved/appreciated? 

#noticehowyoufeelandwhy

 

 

Wisdom from my mamma

"Quello che ci metti quello ci trovi (e piú ce ne metti piú ce ne trovi!)"

You will find what you've put in it! (It's all about the ingredients, so use the best and... don't skimp!).

Isn't that the most basic and yet most profound truth when you translate it into life?

Some people call it you reap what you sow, and some "no pain no gain", but at the end of that day the obvious truth is that the choices that we make determine the outcome.

Recipe:

So when you prepare your meals (and more) today for yourself, and even more so for others, put your best ingredients in and let that remind you to put your best efforts in everything you do.... Savor the difference! 😋 😘 ❤️️

#themoreyouputthemoreyoufind

 My beautiful mamma

My beautiful mamma