Is it a coincidence, luck, a big break or what ?

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Is it a coincidence, luck, a big break or what ?

Coincidence and luck are two fun words to use, but in the real world, the one beyond what we can see, they are just a sequence of notes playing a harmony in the concert of life.

Let me explain before a share a brief version of my story.

Judging from my personal experience, it appears to me in hindsight, that the good things in my life were never mere coincidences or sheer luck. In fact they to have been masterfully, orchestrated, as they always end up being what I wanted deep down in my heart — whether I was aware or not — yet.

Although I can’t count the instances that could support this truth in my life, the greatest of all might be — my decision to study the Japanese language at the age of 19.

What I didn’t know, when I enrolled into the language that boasted being the hardest of all, (at the “Università Orientale di Napoli”), is that some day (shortly after) I would land in Tokyo, Japan.

With hardly any money in my pocket and not knowing anyone but my Japanese teacher, (who was going to be there for a week or so, visiting his family), I somehow made it to the land of the rising sun.

Side note: my Japanese teacher was also the one who lent me the money to buy a ticket there, (which when I became rich and famous I promptly returned :) ).

Thank you Mr. Nakazawa-san, wherever you are for believing in me!

There, in a world and language so far from my native ones, I would pursue and conquer the career of my dreams. My life would take a course that no one could ever possibly have imagined or believed for me.

   (All cast reunion for YAN YAN Utau Sutajo, an SNL style comedy & music program)

(All cast reunion for YAN YAN Utau Sutajo, an SNL style comedy & music program)

When something you really wanted comes to you, or when you’re in the right place at the right time, when the stars align or whatever we want to call it — this is what I believe really happens:

A bunch of “coincidences” lead up to a final stroke of “luck” and then everything begins to make sense. The puzzle pieces finally come together, but the picture was there from the start, just invisible to us.

And that is the hard part of our life journey — trying to navigate through it without a map.

Figuring out where we are coming from and where we are going is no easy task.

So while we might feel as we are in control, we actually have very little control over building our life — as it is impossible for us to see the full picture.

(Side note: this would explain why the most asked questions on Quora revolve around the meaning of life, why we’re here, and what’s the point of it all).

We can follow our instincts, we can follow our hearts, we can do our best, but at the end of the day, we are at the mercy of those “coincidences and luck”.

But are they really just coincidences and luck?